My Stillborn Daughter, She Died of a Placental Abruption

johnleeknoefler · #91 ● 03-02-2013, 12:36 PM

Originally Posted by PrettyHateMachine ↗

And yes, I do miss her. She would have turned 5 this year. Yes, I do wonder what she would have looked like and what kind of personality she would have had. Yes, I was devastated.

But I just don't see how it is that posting any kind of accident, murder, suicide, or anything else is accepted, but if I post a picture of my daughter who passed away, that it is considered stepping over the boundaries.

The only difference is that you are posting your child. And it makes it more unseemly for the haters to post ugly comments.
I would have uncomfortable feelings to post photos of my daughter in her casket. In fact, I was unhappy that the coffin was left open at all and that anyone took a photo.
Thanks for posting the cause of death. I did look it up and learned quite a bit. Also sorry for your loss.
Sometimes it seems death comes for no obvious reason and we can blame it on this or that but the truth is that every one of us dies in the end. Some having never seen one ray of sunshine, some after a long full life, and some for no reason at all but it comes to all of us. Those of us who remain living do our best to carry on and shoulder the loss. You never "get over it" but you do get used to it.

johnleeknoefler · #92 ● 03-02-2013, 12:45 PM

Originally Posted by FavaBeans ↗

It was in his wallet you dumbass...ok How bout a section that is exclusively for...POST YOUR DEAD FAMILY MEMBER....

Look at all the snide comments on the bloody shit posted here....Do you not UNDERSTAND?

Since he showed it to everyone he met I am assuming he didn't know how to go online and post to DR or most likely he would of done so. I think what bothers you is not so much the dead baby photo but the ugly comments and flame wars erupting over the photo? What's that expression? Shit just got real? It's no longer posting assinine rude comments that the family and friends of the dead people are never gonna see, it's a photo of a little baby that died before ever seeing the light of day one moment and it's her mother right there posting it and we all feel just a wee bit awkward to see the ugliness and lack of sensitivity toward the deceased and thier surviving loved ones. The problem is not so much the posting of a poor dead baby photo by her mother, but rather, the responses of a bunch of boorish cretins who feel the need to post when they and all of us would be better off without thier contributions.

johnleeknoefler · #93 ● 03-02-2013, 12:51 PM

Originally Posted by Mixus ↗

Post the picture on DR, then have a funeral party at Mc'Donald's drive through!

My family traditionally goes out to eat at some restaurant. All who attend the funeral are invited and the bill gets quite large. Last few times we have gone to Hometown Buffet. All anyone had to do to get a free meal is say they were with our family and the bill went on the tab.
My Grandmother left money just for that while my aunt took care of the funds.
Last few years have seen quite a few family gatherings at the HomeTown Buffet.

babygirlboo · #94 ● 03-02-2013, 01:16 PM

velvitt · #95 ● 03-02-2013, 02:07 PM

Originally Posted by johnleeknoefler ↗

Since he showed it to everyone he met I am assuming he didn't know how to go online and post to DR or most likely he would of done so. I think what bothers you is not so much the dead baby photo but the ugly comments and flame wars erupting over the photo? What's that expression? Shit just got real? It's no longer posting assinine rude comments that the family and friends of the dead people are never gonna see, it's a photo of a little baby that died before ever seeing the light of day one moment and it's her mother right there posting it and we all feel just a wee bit awkward to see the ugliness and lack of sensitivity toward the deceased and thier surviving loved ones. The problem is not so much the posting of a poor dead baby photo by her mother, but rather, the responses of a bunch of boorish cretins who feel the need to post when they and all of us would be better off without thier contributions.

That's not the point...

Most of us (I hope) have almost no connection to the content that is uploaded to this site, but when it's something very personal, and heartbreaking, people are gonna have a much stronger opinion.

I don't have a personal relationship with anyone here, so I would have no idea what sort of comments I would receive if I were to post a pic of my dead newborn.

Do I think ill of her for posting the pick of her dead baby? Fuck NO! I understand her pain and suffering.

The point is that she invited a bunch of anonymous strangers into her personal tragedy and some obviously have different views on this sensitive matter.

I often disagree with some of the comments posted on DR, but when the subject is a painful topic like this, our emotions are going to take over and maybe we shouldn't let them.

To all of you that are giving her encouragement during this horrible tragedy, I commend you

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FavaBeans · #96 ● 03-02-2013, 02:24 PM

Im sorry but all I come here for is to view DEATH DISMEMBERMENT and Fucked up Comments for a laugh...Not to view some poor unfortunate dead baby from an ACTUAL user. I think its fucked up in some form....but for the life of me I cannot think of how to explain it. The title said STILLBORN...not My STILLBORN BABY...take a gander..I dont give a shit who dislikes my fucking opinion or not.
I and would NEVER try to engross pity from this place.