Sorry about the ex husband and the "cop attitude" it's fairly pervasive in the business. I've always tried to be aware of it and not to do that...I am a world class smart ass, but I never developed a very good cop attitude. I have friends who are very copie and are assholes at work and then at home they're normal. I never did that...I was the same guy at work as I was at home. I never had a "game face", of course I spent most of my career in investigations. If I'd stayed as a beat cop I probably would have had to developed one to just survive. We not all dickweeds...I wish folks would just take us as they find us...without preconceptions.
I have the utmost respect for LEO. You know how I feel.