[Vedderman]

This site is chock-fucking-full of psychos, misanthropes, malcontents, drooling mongs, perverts, necrophiles, douchebags, rotten whores, degenerates, two-faced bastards, and generally unsavory, dangerous people.

I repeat...keep your head down, post content, and don't fucking engage with any of the above. Problem solved.

Anyway, I'm sad she's gone. I liked her well enough and her contributions were valuable. But she was also allowed to slide on a LOT of infractionary bullshit because she was a good contributor. I went to bat for her plenty and was never shy about telling her that her efforts had value.

If she felt unappreciated, then that's too bad for her. I've got threads up here with more than 10,000 Views and fewer than 10 Thank-Yous. Site's full of ungrateful shitmongers. I sent her reams of text in conversations advising her, FROM EXPERIENCE, how to deal with all of that shit.

She didn't listen. Now she's gone. Sucks, but it's life.

I personally hope she comes back when she feels she's ready to, but if she doesn't, onward we go.

[Susan]

Was writing out another paragraph then, and deleted again.

Thanks, Ved.

[zuiram]

Just taking a moment to say thank you, Vedderman, both for your content and for your usual patience in explaining a lot of stuff to us all, plus all of the rest, like the moderation.

I also appreciated Dahlia’s numerous contributions, and share the perception that she for some reason was unable to adequately regulate her own participation in topics that could only be unhealthy for her in the end. I’ve sunk more time into some things than I probably should, but try to know when the time has come to stop following a thread or ignore someone I’ll only get aggravated by with no payoff. I hope she’ll regain her equilibrium and learn how to maintain it. We didn’t ever really agree on much, but she was great at supplying content with real info and I’ll miss that.

I empathize with the difficulty as I recall the burden it was to someone I know who shared it. She would end up getting drawn into things that could only end in tears or rage, with no possibility of a good outcome, over and over again, and she just could not walk away, ever. I quickly learned that pointing it out is just going to draw fire despite the intention to be helpful, and to just stay clear and let the train wreck happen, then pick up the pieces until you’re no longer up for it. It’s got to be hard to be wired like that, for anyone, and spending that much time obsessing over this sort of content has at least *some* correlation with having plenty on one’s plate without the added pain.

Glad y’all gave good advice. I hope the break lets her take it in the future.

For SusanMarie: we can’t control what people say to us, but we can decide what we do about it, up to a point, and, if wise, decide to not get drawn past the point where we can make a good decision. That’s what people are saying was the problem. Lots of idiots on here, and lots of opportunity to respond like an idiot to an idiotic post (been there, done that), but we all have to take care of ourselves and not let the mere existence of idiots cause problems for us when we have the Ignore button and the ability to close the browser. To not let it get to the point where we can no longer make the decision to shrug and walk away. And Dahlia clearly found it harder than most. Cutting herself off from the venue for a time is probably going to be helpful, because that stuff does have a lot in common with addiction behaviors, for which it’s usually considered a good first step towards recovery to avoid the situations, places and people who confront you with the choice you’re failing to make in your best interest.

[Hollister]

I'm lost... What's wc?

[ousoonerchic]

Originally Posted by Hollister ↗

I'm lost... What's wc?

Water Cooler

[1Monster666]

Bloater bloater it's always a floater

[HeyJealousy]

Originally Posted by Vedderman ↗

Dahlia should have listened to EVERY SINGLE MODERATOR ON THE SITE when we advised her, repeatedly, to stay the fuck out of the WC.

Now the site suffers for it and why? Because she simply could not help herself and just HAD to go dive into the drama.

The WC is a toxic playground for misanthropic children. There is absolutely zero reason for anyone to visit it unless they are seeking out abuse and chaos.

I used to get slagged off in the WC all of the time. Know what I did? I stopped going in there and focused on posting content instead. And here I still am ten years later, a Moderator, and somehow managing to research a few posts a week when I am not busy putting out dumpster fires. I'm jammed up building a new house atm and, thus, not able to pick up the slack from her absence as I once may have done. That said, the site ran just fine without Dahlia for more than a decade. Someone else will step up and take her place eventually. Someone always does.

It sucks that she's gone because she was thorough and industrious with her content posting, but that fucking drama was like heroin to her so I suspect it is better for her brain that she stays off the site entirely if she couldn't maintain the discipline to just avoid the WC.

What a fucking waste.

Damn straight, WC is the West Virginia of Documenting Reality.

[Susan]

Originally Posted by zuiram ↗

Just taking a moment to say thank you, Vedderman, both for your content and for your usual patience in explaining a lot of stuff to us all, plus all of the rest, like the moderation.

I also appreciated Dahlia’s numerous contributions, and share the perception that she for some reason was unable to adequately regulate her own participation in topics that could only be unhealthy for her in the end. I’ve sunk more time into some things than I probably should, but try to know when the time has come to stop following a thread or ignore someone I’ll only get aggravated by with no payoff. I hope she’ll regain her equilibrium and learn how to maintain it. We didn’t ever really agree on much, but she was great at supplying content with real info and I’ll miss that.

I empathize with the difficulty as I recall the burden it was to someone I know who shared it. She would end up getting drawn into things that could only end in tears or rage, with no possibility of a good outcome, over and over again, and she just could not walk away, ever. I quickly learned that pointing it out is just going to draw fire despite the intention to be helpful, and to just stay clear and let the train wreck happen, then pick up the pieces until you’re no longer up for it. It’s got to be hard to be wired like that, for anyone, and spending that much time obsessing over this sort of content has at least *some* correlation with having plenty on one’s plate without the added pain.

Glad y’all gave good advice. I hope the break lets her take it in the future.

For SusanMarie: we can’t control what people say to us, but we can decide what we do about it, up to a point, and, if wise, decide to not get drawn past the point where we can make a good decision. That’s what people are saying was the problem. Lots of idiots on here, and lots of opportunity to respond like an idiot to an idiotic post (been there, done that), but we all have to take care of ourselves and not let the mere existence of idiots cause problems for us when we have the Ignore button and the ability to close the browser. To not let it get to the point where we can no longer make the decision to shrug and walk away. And Dahlia clearly found it harder than most. Cutting herself off from the venue for a time is probably going to be helpful, because that stuff does have a lot in common with addiction behaviors, for which it’s usually considered a good first step towards recovery to avoid the situations, places and people who confront you with the choice you’re failing to make in your best interest.

She DID stay away from the WC, especially towards the end. She didn't go in for 2 weeks just before she left. Yes, the WC didn't help, but she was already in that frame of mind before entering there, due to other things, which is not up to me to say. If she wants to say anything, that is down to her. I just felt compelled to stick up for her somewhat as she wasn't an idiot who just couldn't control herself and brought about her own downfall. She loved this place. Ask yourself why that would change. She could handle herself in the WC. There were other things going on. And that's the last time I say anything on the matter.

[schindler]

Originally Posted by SusanMarie ↗

Thought I'd hold off a bit from posting in the hopes Dahlia would return, alas, I think she has her mind made up......



Woman's body found tied by neck in Ponta Negra



Manaus - An unidentified woman, aged between 25 and 30 years, was found dead on Ponta Negra Beach, West Zone of Manaus, on Friday morning (18). She was tied around the neck with a handkerchief on branches of a tree. There is no information on the cause of death.

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According to Lieutenant Lobato of the Fire Department, the corporation was activated around 7am. They were told that a woman's body was floating in the river.

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"She was stuck in some branches. It was a ribbon tied around her neck and pinned to the branches. Part of her hair was also in the branches, "Lieutenant Lobato said. The woman's body was referred to the Instituto Médico Legal (IML). Police from the 19th Interactive Community Company (Cicom) were at the scene to gather information on the case.

no shit

[RiversEdge]

I'm incredibly new here, and in the short time I've haunted this place, I can say I've discovered that a person can thank you one moment, and the next; treat you as if you were their worst enemy. I've visited the water cooler on occasion, and dove in deep to some conversations, and engaged in some verbiage where I felt like their common enemy. But that was my choosing. I took it w/ a grain of salt, as I was forewarned beforehand. I stayed in the battle, because It was bitterly fun to see how riled up some folks can be.

Some conversations I muddled into; were for pure entertainment.

I was a detention officer for 22 years, and I could see first hand, the behavior of the mostly unintelligent feeble-minded residents. I didn't hold it against them. It was just a job.

I, for instance have contributed several threads of which a gaggle of people visited, and not one thanks. Do I take it personally? No. I've come to expect it due to the polarizing nature of this site. It's just a site. It's the internet. Nameless, faceless individuals troll the site to try to follow, lead and basically feel impowered by the keystroke.

Tomorrow is another day, and life goes on. You can be bothered by it, or chalk it up to another day-in-the-life of living vicariously through your pounding fingers. I personally get a kick out of people's imagination. ...and I too, shall carry on...