Asexuality and Low Libido In Women

[sunairco]

I guess I've always been interested in this topic and have never been completely convinced by some of the explanations. For low libido, it always seems like it's a blame game for everything the guy did wrong. There doesn't seem to be a critical analysis if there is no fault of the male despite overwhelming evidence otherwise.

The closest credible answer that I've ever heard in those cases came from one of the Berman sisters that used to appear on Oprah.
The women for whatever reason were just simply no longer into their mate. Hard to accept from a male point of view if you did everything right and the problem still remains and it's not a medical problem.

Asexuality is another topic altogether. One of my daughters truly fits into this category now in her mid 30's. It's not a medical issue or even a psychological issue. Both girls had dream childhoods growing up in an extended family and never knew any kind of abuse. Yet one doesn't seem to have any attraction,desire, or interest in an intimate relationship or children. While she does have many friends and is very affectionate within the family, it ends there.
She fits the classic type. Tiny, 4'8", left handed, but deviates from the birth order as she was first born.

Any of you ladies interested in chiming in on this subject?

[winvens]

Asexuality always seemed to me as a variation of normal. I've read 1% of the population is asexual.

[CrunchyCripple]

Changes in libido are mostly due to hormonal changes. If those changes happen while in the womb, it may affect development and cause asexuality from birth.



Hormones during fetal development also seem to be linked to what determines heterosexuality and homosexuality.

[MrCorpse]

Originally Posted by sunairco

I guess I've always been interested in this topic and have never been completely convinced by some of the explanations. For low libido, it always seems like it's a blame game for everything the guy did wrong. There doesn't seem to be a critical analysis if there is no fault of the male despite overwhelming evidence otherwise.

The closest credible answer that I've ever heard in those cases came from one of the Berman sisters that used to appear on Oprah.
The women for whatever reason were just simply no longer into their mate. Hard to accept from a male point of view if you did everything right and the problem still remains and it's not a medical problem.

Asexuality is another topic altogether. One of my daughters truly fits into this category now in her mid 30's. It's not a medical issue or even a psychological issue. Both girls had dream childhoods growing up in an extended family and never knew any kind of abuse. Yet one doesn't seem to have any attraction,desire, or interest in an intimate relationship or children. While she does have many friends and is very affectionate within the family, it ends there.
She fits the classic type. Tiny, 4'8", left handed, but deviates from the birth order as she was first born.

Any of you ladies interested in chiming in on this subject?

While I'm sure there are people out there who have no interest in sex I think that in most cases it is that they are unable to attain what it is that they want and therefore give up. It is the easier option if you are not naturally able to get what you want, it takes time and effort to improve ones shortcomings.

Having said that you're not going to know everything in the life of another person and it is possible that your daughter doesn't tell you everything that happens. I'm sure you would acknowledge that she could still be tarting it about all over town without your knowledge but just not be able to get a guy who she is interested in to stay with her. This could be embarrassing for her so not something she would automatically share with you. Would you say she's pretty? Does she have a drug addiction that you know of?

As for the rest of the original post, it's better if you include a video, pictures, or even a copy pasted news article where possible.

[spudigitti]

Mr Corpse is boring

[MrCorpse]

Originally Posted by spudigitti

Mr Corpse is boring

You're a parrot, I called you boring yesterday.

[DeppsDoll]

Being asexual myself, it is really frustrating when people assume that its just a way people 'give up' because they can't get anyone to stay...that actually really pissed me off reading that.
I always thought of sexuality as a sort of sliding scale, and some people happen to end up off the scale entirely
You should check out the site AVEN, it has a lot of info on the topic.
If your daughter is happy, be happy :)

[GooeyKablooie]

Originally Posted by DeppsDoll

Being asexual myself, it is really frustrating when people assume that its just a way people 'give up' because they can't get anyone to stay

In my case, MrCorpse summed it up perfectly. I've just plain gotten sick of the whole dating/fucking "game". And it IS that, a game. Until can I meet a decent single woman (which 25 years of personal experience tells me doesn't exist), I've basically shut off any desire to continue looking.
I'm out in public everyday and meet new people all the time, so I'm open to the idea of finding "her". However, I'm done holding my breathe while waiting.