[Vanessa12106]

The mom seems far too ok with the baby being dead. I would be very sad. I know you have to stay strong for your kids but damn.

[Lyndsay]

I'm envious that they have the video of their baby. As a mom who lost a child at 20wks, I would love to have a picture or something of my daughter. A great organization called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep helps solve that problem. It's a great non profit. I used to be a photographer for them. It's always heartbreaking. Kudos to the parents for letting the son see his sister, so many people don't and it confuses the kid(s) who knew mom had a baby in her belly and now it's not there.

[Jerdipski]

Originally Posted by Vanessa12106 ↗

The mom seems far too ok with the baby being dead. I would be very sad. I know you have to stay strong for your kids but damn.

What a stupid thing to say!

[Luckie D]

Originally Posted by Vanessa12106 ↗

The mom seems far too ok with the baby being dead. I would be very sad. I know you have to stay strong for your kids but damn.

It takes a lot of strength and willpower to not break down while explaining death to a child. Ever had to explain a dead pet or relative to a child or a younger sibling? I have and it takes a lot of willpower to keep a steady mind to explain death to someone who doesn't understand it. It's the need to be strong for someone else that takes over so they have a strong shoulder to cry against, just like that little boy was doing by leaning against his mother.

Unless you have had to explain death to a young child, don't jump to conclusions so quickly.

For all we know, this couple probably knew something was wrong with the pregnancy before the baby was born premature and were mentally prepared that they were going to have to explain his little sister wasn't coming home. I bet you they shed many tears and held that little girl close as she took her final breath, letting her know she was loved, had a name and a big brother before he was brought in. Instead of saying 'sorry, no baby' to him, they showed him his sister, explained it to him at his level of understanding and let him continue to hold her even after falling asleep. Not many big siblings get that chance to say good bye. This boy received an amazing experience about death and has wonderful parents who kept a strong shoulder for him to lean against as he cried in the beginning.

[Vanessa12106]

Originally Posted by Jerdipski ↗

What a stupid thing to say!

I'm just saying. I have a daughter and I think letting her hold her dead sibling and touch it would just be a little much for a child to understand. I mean, there's nothing wrong with showing emotion. I'm not saying she's wrong or a bad person. I'm just saying I would have to cry in that situation.

[Desensitisation]

Second vid was well handled. Good work, big brother.

[Vanessa12106]

Originally Posted by Luckie D ↗

It takes a lot of strength and willpower to not break down while explaining death to a child. Ever had to explain a dead pet or relative to a child or a younger sibling? I have and it takes a lot of willpower to keep a steady mind to explain death to someone who doesn't understand it. It's the need to be strong for someone else that takes over so they have a strong shoulder to cry against, just like that little boy was doing by leaning against his mother.

Unless you have had to explain death to a young child, don't jump to conclusions so quickly.

For all we know, this couple probably knew something was wrong with the pregnancy before the baby was born premature and were mentally prepared that they were going to have to explain his little sister wasn't coming home. I bet you they shed many tears and held that little girl close as she took her final breath, letting her know she was loved, had a name and a big brother before he was brought in. Instead of saying 'sorry, no baby' to him, they showed him his sister, explained it to him at his level of understanding and let him continue to hold her even after falling asleep. Not many big siblings get that chance to say good bye. This boy received an amazing experience about death and has wonderful parents who kept a strong shoulder for him to lean against as he cried in the beginning.

I have a 9 year old daughter and I lost her would be sibling. I'm not saying anything wrong about this woman. I just couldn't hold my dead baby and not show a little emotion. It's ok to be sad when people die. It's a part of life.

[Desensitisation]

Originally Posted by Vanessa12106 ↗

I'm just saying. I have a daughter and I think letting her hold her dead sibling and touch it would just be a little much for a child to understand. I mean, there's nothing wrong with showing emotion. I'm not saying she's wrong or a bad person. I'm just saying I would have to cry in that situation.

Some are stronger than others, either by nature or by experience. I give major props to the mother for keeping it together; she may not have been crying, but look at her face. If you can't see the deeper layer of pain that is there, well, you're only seeing half the story.

What you are seeing clearly, however, is how much she loves her son, and how strong she's being for him, because he *is* going to find it hard to understand, and yes, it may even be beyond his full understanding. But I think it's better for kids to have this sort of well-balanced experience of something they may not fully understand, rather than try to shield them from everything, only to leave them incapable of dealing with it later in life when they really need to, as well as being incapable of being strong for someone else who needs you to be.

[Vanessa12106]

Originally Posted by Desensitisation ↗

Some are stronger than others, either by nature or by experience. I give major props to the mother for keeping it together; she may not have been crying, but look at her face. If you can't see the deeper layer of pain that is there, well, you're only seeing half the story.

What you are seeing clearly, however, is how much she loves her son, and how strong she's being for him, because he *is* going to find it hard to understand, and yes, it may even be beyond his full understanding. But I think it's better for kids to have this sort of well-balanced experience of something they may not fully understand, rather than try to shield them from everything, only to leave them incapable of dealing with it later in life when they really need to, as well as being incapable of being strong for someone else who needs you to be.

I'm sorry but crying is not a sign of weakness.
Once again, not judging this woman at all. I just think it might be a bit traumatizing.

[PsychodelicTurtle]

Originally Posted by Vanessa12106 ↗

The mom seems far too ok with the baby being dead. I would be very sad. I know you have to stay strong for your kids but damn.

She might be one of those women who miscarry a lot. If so, she's a lot luckier than most, because she already has one child.
I give her kudos for handling it like a pro, especially with and for her son. You go Mom!