[Eternally Solo]

What is BPD
Borderline personality disorder is a mental health disorder that impacts the way you think and feel about yourself and others, causing problems functioning in everyday life. It includes self-image issues, difficulty managing emotions and behavior, and a pattern of unstable relationships.

It is also a complex, multilayered condition that's as difficult to diagnose as it is to treat. One of its paradoxes involves lying. People with BPD fear abandonment and have trouble maintaining relationships.

Nevertheless, they tend to lie, which ruins trust and intimacy, fosters resentment, and harms the very relationships they fear losing. Many family members and friends of those with BPD cite lying as a major problem in their relationships.

BPD Symptoms
To be properly diagnosed with BPD, you must exhibit 7 out of 9 signs. The signs and symptoms may include:

• An intense fear of abandonment, even going to extreme measures to avoid real or imagined separation or rejection
• A pattern of unstable intense relationships, such as idealizing someone one moment and then suddenly believing the person doesn't care enough or is cruel
• Rapid changes in self-identity and self-image that include shifting goals and values, and seeing yourself as bad or as if you don't exist at all
• Periods of stress-related paranoia and loss of contact with reality, lasting from a few minutes to a few hours
• Impulsive and risky behavior, such as gambling, reckless driving, unsafe sex, spending sprees, binge eating or drug abuse, or sabotaging success by suddenly quitting a good job or ending a positive relationship
• Suicidal threats or behavior or self-injury, often in response to fear of separation or rejection
• Wide mood swings lasting from a few hours to a few days, which can include intense happiness, irritability, shame or anxiety
• Ongoing feelings of emptiness
• Inappropriate, intense anger, such as frequently losing your temper, being sarcastic or bitter, or having physical fight.

BPD and Lying
Clinical Psychotherapist, Ken Mellon states:

People with BPD often feel much stronger emotional pain than others would in the same circumstance. So, sometimes, their reaction to certain circumstances is so exaggerated and different from what others might feel. it seems made up. But, to them, it's very real and very painful.

They sometimes do, indeed, make up things in order to keep people from abandoning them. They’ll make up ailments; feign suicide, etc. to get attention. Some of this can be somewhat unintentional or subconscious. They can get so desperate for affection that they lose perspective on reality to a certain extent.

Treatment

[ride]

BPD - The official mental health diagnosis of DR.

[neanderthot]

One of my longest, very best friends developed this and ended up stalking and sending me death threats at our college. Was a real son of a bitch watching this girl I'd known since elementary school turn into that in her mid-late 20s.

[Eternally Solo]

Originally Posted by neanderthot ↗

One of my longest, very best friends developed this and ended up stalking and sending me death threats at our college. Was a real son of a bitch watching this girl I'd known since elementary school turn into that in her mid-late 20s.

BPD is very much trauma based. What she did is called splitting.

Splitting behavior is a defense mechanism that allows people with types of BPD to reframe something in black-and-white terms. It’s called splitting because it involves putting people, places, and things into one of two categories. Splitting can cause people to view something as entirely good or completely bad.

While most people with BPD understand that the world is complex, splitting behavior can cause them to shift rapidly between two extremes. For example, someone with BPD may think that another person is amazing one day, only to see them as the worst person in the world the next. This sudden shift generally occurs after a negative interaction — even if the exchange is brief. In one moment, they feel confident in the relationship, then they’ll suddenly view the person as worthless as soon as they make a mistake.

A splitting episode can also be a way for people with BPD to push blame on someone else. For example, if they forget to complete a task, they might insist it was stupid or that the instructions they received weren’t clear. At times, people with BPD may openly share these views with others, but splitting can also be an internal behavior.

[starw0rms]

I was diagnosed with borderline for 6 years ago. While it’s an intimidating diagnosis, it was also a relief to not just be “crazy”. I had my son 4 years ago, I cannot imagine being the mother I am today without support.
Therapy and antidepressants have helped me so much. I hope everyone can get the opportunity to get the help I was able to.
By no means am I cured but I am a better friend/mother/sister nowadays

[VileGirl]

makes life fucking crazy … the end

[luc21]

Why Borderlines are worth it

[winvens]

Borderline personalities are exhausting to deal with IMO.

[Abor]

Personality disorders are just extreme manifestations of everyday emotions and behaviors that are out of what is considered "normal". The fact they have similar diagnostic criteria across cultures and societies points to their pathology.

Because it's all psychiatric and psychological related it's still a work in progress determining the exact criteria for disorders as we learn more about their nuances.