[Airbornemama]

Geez,i'm 44 and can barely keep up with my grown children!!!

[TwistedPrincess]

how selfish. if she wanted a child she could have if not adopted at least be a foster mother. technically she should have decided to have the kid 30-40 years earlier. stupid selfish woman.

[SnowBun]

Originally Posted by EternalAbyss ↗

I think it's very selfish of the mother to do that - for one, the risk of the baby developing Down's Syndrome (and other conditions I'm sure) greatly increases the older the mother gets after age 35, and also that child will likely not be able to enjoy a normal childhood because of issues such as the mother not being able to be active enough to keep up with the child, which robs him/her of the fun and activities they would normally enjoy with a young(er) parent. The child will also probably end up having to take care of the mother at a young age, and may lose her before they grow up and have the mom see them reach such milestones in life like graduating, getting married, having a child of their own, etc... That isn't fair to make a child go through that just because you decide you want a baby at the age you should be retired and enjoying grand children. The fact that the procedure was forbidden after age 45 and had to be done in another country only reinforces all of that

Just FYI as long as she used a donor egg, there is no more chance of down syndrome than any other woman. The reason women are more prone to having downs syndrome children over a certain age is the deterioration of their own eggs.

On the other hand, I know plenty of kids and teens who lost their parents young, from cancer or suicide. My last husband was diagnosed with cancer when our son was 7. Shit happens, who cares if this woman wanted a baby. At least it will be loved. With all the stories of younger parents beating and shaking their kids to death, or murdering their kids, I would say this kid has a better chance than alot.

[EternalAbyss]

Originally Posted by SnowBun ↗

Just FYI as long as she used a donor egg, there is no more chance of down syndrome than any other woman. The reason women are more prone to having downs syndrome children over a certain age is the deterioration of their own eggs.

On the other hand, I know plenty of kids and teens who lost their parents young, from cancer or suicide. My last husband was diagnosed with cancer when our son was 7. Shit happens, who cares if this woman wanted a baby. At least it will be loved. With all the stories of younger parents beating and shaking their kids to death, or murdering their kids, I would say this kid has a better chance than alot.

I guess that's true, I didn't really know it mattered with a donor egg or not whether the risk of Down's increases as the mother ages. I agree too that things happen and are unavoidable, but I've seen first-hand the consequences of having an old parent pass away at a young age; my friend lost her 68 year old father to a heart attack when she was 16, and coupled with the fact that her mother was/is mentally ill, she never learned the necessities of being independant such as doing laundry, paying bills, cooking and cleaning, etc..and so ended up as an adult that has no idea how to be on be on her own. My cousin was in a similar situation and is still living at home with her mom, not going to college or doing anything because of the depression the loss of her father caused. Yes, anything can happen at anytime and can leave a child without a parent even if they are not old, but at least the intention of being around for the child is there..whereas if you have a 65+ year old parent raising a newborn child, you can pretty much count on them not being around for all the important things in life. I just think it's unfair to rob a child of that opportunity, along with all the other issues the kid will go through being dependant on someone that is soon going to be depending on them instead. I am severely physically disabled and have a terminal condition where I could be dead tomorrow, or possibly live a few to 20 years more, but if I ever end up having a child - which I probably won't because of too many issues - I will make sure that my husband is fully capable of raising it on his own, and have the help of our families and friends if needed, because I wouldn't be selfish and bring a child into the world if I can't give it everything it needs and deserves..you know what I mean? But regardless, I'm sorry to hear about your husband I wish you and your family all the best.

[kizzcee007]

FYI...it is a myth that the older a woman is the more likely she is to have a child with Downs. My daughter was 18 when she had her son who has Downs. During her pregnancy she had no screening tests for DS (not that she would've aborted him if she had known) so it was a bit of a surprise for us all. The doctors told her that women between 18 and 25 are actually more likely to have a baby with DS than at any other age, therefore dispelling the usual idea that older mums are more likely to have a baby with DS.

Saying that I believe the woman in the OP is wrong to have had a baby at her age. The fact that she has had to seek medical intervention in order to become pregnant should have been a red light to her...her own body is saying "I am now past the age of childbearing". If she had not needed IVF and had fallen pregnant naturally then that's different.

[joethurr]

I think it is a myth...any scientists to confirm the validity?

[Black Knight]

While on one hand I am happy for the woman, on the other I consider it very selfish on her part.

[EternalAbyss]

Originally Posted by kizzcee007 ↗

FYI...it is a myth that the older a woman is the more likely she is to have a child with Downs. My daughter was 18 when she had her son who has Downs. During her pregnancy she had no screening tests for DS (not that she would've aborted him if she had known) so it was a bit of a surprise for us all. The doctors told her that women between 18 and 25 are actually more likely to have a baby with DS than at any other age, therefore dispelling the usual idea that older mums are more likely to have a baby with DS.

Saying that I believe the woman in the OP is wrong to have had a baby at her age. The fact that she has had to seek medical intervention in order to become pregnant should have been a red light to her...her own body is saying "I am now past the age of childbearing". If she had not needed IVF and had fallen pregnant naturally then that's different.

Well I guess that's been debunked then, and is no longer a valid argument But the rest still stands (in my opinion), especially as we've both said how she had to go elsewhere to have the procedure done shows how bad of an idea (from a medical and ethical standpoint) it is all around...and as you brought up, women go through menopause for a reason!

[Pyramid_Head]

She's still got it.

[Dauði Þegir]

i personally find that quite disturbing...