Domestic Violence (Case 1)

[Shadowkeeper]

Originally Posted by Piper

pardon? if i understand you correctly, this is also the reason for your in the OP and you are basically saying because she didn't complain she is a fool and she refused to have him arrested.

you don't know the signs of fear, then or are you saying she liked it?

abused women don't always tell or have their partner arrested because they get out and they come back.

Actually, most of the time the cops will just drive the asshole a few blocks away and drop him off with a warning - cops and the courts are about useless when it comes to domestic violence, at least until it's too late...and then you get loads of jerks blaming the victim

[Piper]

Originally Posted by Shadowkeeper

Actually, most of the time the cops will just drive the asshole a few blocks away and drop him off with a warning - cops and the courts are about useless when it comes to domestic violence, at least until it's too late...and then you get loads of jerks blaming the victim

agreed with any part of it, including babies and kids.

i tried to look at the photo to see if she wanted to pose and it was s&m, but the body language doesn't look it to me.

[Shadowkeeper]

Originally Posted by Piper

agreed with any part of it, including babies and kids.

i tried to look at the photo to see if she wanted to pose and it was s&m, but the body language doesn't look it to me.

If it was S&M, it wasn't the kind that would be approved of by any real BDSM comunity - the rules are quite clear - hurt but don't harm...permanent marks like that would earn a (pathetic excuse for a) Dom a very painful lesson from the comunity as a whole...such things are not treated lightly, as trust is extremely important in BDSM, and there are many formerly abused that use it as a form of therapy (don't knock it, for the right people it works quite well) - in other words, this would still be abuse

[eurobred]

cant stand when guys think women are punching bags, they wouldnt dare do that shit to someone their own size

[Shadowkeeper]

Originally Posted by eurobred

cant stand when guys think women are punching bags, they wouldnt dare do that shit to someone their own size

That's why they do it - it gives them the illusion of power and control, just like a rapist or serial killer

[eurobred]

yea i know it makes them feel more superior, thats why they are nothing but cowardly pussies

[carolinablue823]

was she able to leave? did she have anywhere to go, any way to get out, any money, job skills? not everyone, even family, is willing to shelter a battered woman; they rightly fear violence to themselves. anywhere she can go, he can go. and he WILL find her, and what he does then makes prior abuse look like fucking birthday kisses. does she have small kids? can she support them? keep them safe? did you know that spousal abuse is not a reason to deny joint custody or unsupervised visitation? many women stay for just that reason, they'll risk their lives to keep their children from being alone with a violent man...or one who'll abduct the kids out of spite. did you know that the MOST dangerous time for a battered woman is when she leaves the relationship? think about it...if he beats the shit out of you when you're doing everything you can to keep him from getting angry and violent, what do you think he's going to do when you defy him by leaving and taking "his" kids? watch for news stories on women killed by their husbands/boyfriends; see how often it's reported, "the couple had just separated/divorced/broken up" or that she had just moved out. you may be surprised. never blame the victim of a crime like this. ever. i know; been there, done that..then spent 15 years working in a battered women's program.

[osakedake]

Originally Posted by Dr_Hanson

Bitch should've stayed in the kitchen.

sorry. Hope all is well.

[Raypist]

Bless her

[Piper]

Originally Posted by Shadowkeeper

If it was S&M, it wasn't the kind that would be approved of by any real BDSM comunity - the rules are quite clear - hurt but don't harm...permanent marks like that would earn a (pathetic excuse for a) Dom a very painful lesson from the comunity as a whole...such things are not treated lightly, as trust is extremely important in BDSM, and there are many formerly abused that use it as a form of therapy (don't knock it, for the right people it works quite well) - in other words, this would still be abuse

i do agree. i have seen a bull whipping on the cross or the rack (in name only really) at fetish clubs. after the Dom went and picked up his sub and it was euphoric for her and yes marked but not MARKED and gouged. I would never partake in that personally it scared the hell out of me no matter how much trust I had. i absolutely agree with what you are saying, i was only wondering if it was inexperience and due to her having to pose. i do think it is abuse as well. and my earlier reasons for not telling still stand as well.