Go Back  

Psychological Manipulation 

Current Rating:

Join NowJoin Now
 
  #1  
Old 11-12-2010, 05:59 PM
chiefTbon's Avatar
chiefTbon
Offline:
My Rank: FIRST LIEUTENANT
Poster Rank:168
mang
Join Date: Jan 2010
 
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Quoted: 254 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
2/20 14/20
Today Posts
0/11 sssss5888
Psychological Manipulation

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics. By advancing only the interests of the manipulator, often at the other's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive.

Social influence is not necessarily negative. For example, doctors try to persuade patients to change unhealthy habits. Social influence is harmless when it respects the right of the influenced to accept or reject it, and is not unduly coercive. Depending on the context and motivations, social influence may constitute underhanded manipulation.

Requirements for successful psychological manipulation primarily involves:

1.manipulator concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors
2.manipulator knowing the psychological vulnerabilities of the victim to determine what tactics are likely to be the most effective.
3.manipulator having a sufficient level of ruthlessness to have no qualms about causing harm to the victim if necessary.
Consequently the manipulation is likely to be covert (relational aggressive or passive aggressive).

the basic ways that manipulators control their victims:

■positive reinforcement - includes praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy (crocodile tears), excessive apologizing; money, approval, gifts; attention, facial expressions such as a forced laugh or smile; public recognition
■negative reinforcement - includes nagging, yelling, the silent treatment, intimidation, threats, swearing, emotional blackmail, the guilt trap, sulking, crying, and playing the victim
■intermittent or partial reinforcement - Partial or intermittent negative reinforcement can create an effective climate of fear and doubt, for example in terrorist attacks. Partial or intermittent positive reinforcement can encourage the victim to persist - for example in most forms of gambling, the gambler is likely to win now and again but still lose money overall.
■punishment
■traumatic one-trial learning - using verbal abuse, explosive anger, or other intimidating behavior to establish dominance or superiority; even one incident of such behavior can condition or train victims to avoid upsetting, confronting or contradicting the manipulator.

Manipulative techniques:

■Lying: It is hard to tell if somebody is lying at the time they do it although often the truth may be apparent later when it is too late. One way to minimize the chances of being lied to is to understand that some personality types (particularly psychopaths) are experts at the art of lying and cheating, doing it frequently, and often in subtle ways.
■Lying by omission: This is a very subtle form of lying by withholding a significant amount of the truth. This technique is also used in propaganda.
■Denial: Manipulator refuses to admit that he or she has done something wrong.
■Rationalisation: An excuse made by the manipulator for inappropriate behavior. Rationalization is closely related to spin.
■Minimization: This is a type of denial coupled with rationalization. The manipulator asserts that his or her behavior is not as harmful or irresponsible as someone else was suggesting, for example saying that a taunt or insult was only a joke.
■Selective inattention or selective attention: Manipulator refuses to pay attention to anything that may distract from his or her agenda, saying things like "I don't want to hear it".
■Diversion: Manipulator not giving a straight answer to a straight question and instead being diversionary, steering the conversation onto another topic.
■Evasion: Similar to diversion but giving irrelevant, rambling, vague responses, weasel words.
■Covert intimidation: Manipulator throwing the victim onto the defensive by using veiled (subtle, indirect or implied) threats.
■Guilt tripping: A special kind of intimidation tactic. A manipulator suggests to the conscientious victim that he or she does not care enough, is too selfish or has it easy. This usually results in the victim feeling bad, keeping them in a self-doubting, anxious and submissive position.
■Shaming: Manipulator uses sarcasm and put-downs to increase fear and self-doubt in the victim. Manipulators use this tactic to make others feel unworthy and therefore defer to them. Shaming tactics can be very subtle such as a fierce look or glance, unpleasant tone of voice, rhetorical comments, subtle sarcasm. Manipulators can make one feel ashamed for even daring to challenge them. It is an effective way to foster a sense of inadequacy in the victim.
■Playing the victim role ("poor me"): Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation.
■Vilifying the victim: More than any other, this tactic is a powerful means of putting the victim on the defensive while simultaneously masking the aggressive intent of the manipulator.
■Playing the servant role: Cloaking a self-serving agenda in guise of a service to a more noble cause, for example saying he is acting in a certain way for "obedience" and "service" to God or a similar authority figure.
■Seduction: Manipulator uses charm, praise, flattery or overtly supporting others in order to get them to lower their defenses and give their trust and loyalty to him or her.
■Projecting the blame (blaming others): Manipulator scapegoats in often subtle, hard to detect ways.
■Feigning innocence: Manipulator tries to suggest that any harm done was unintentional or did not do something that they were accused of. Manipulator may put on a look of surprise or indignation. This tactic makes the victim question his or her own judgment and possibly his own sanity.
■Feigning confusion: Manipulator tries to play dumb by pretending he or she does not know what you are talking about or is confused about an important issue brought to his attention.
■Brandishing anger: Manipulator uses anger to brandish sufficient emotional intensity and rage to shock the victim into submission. The manipulator is not actually angry, he or she just puts on an act. He just wants what he wants and gets "angry" when denied.

Vulnerabilities exploited by manipulators , manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities (buttons) that may exist in victims:

■the "disease to please"
■addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others
■Emotophobia (fear of negative emotion)
■lack of assertiveness and ability to say no
■blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries)
■low self-reliance
■external locus of control

Manipulators exploit the following vulnerabilities that may exist in victims:

■naïveté - victim finds it too hard to accept the idea that some people are cunning, devious and ruthless or is "in denial" if he is being victimized
■over-conscientiousness - victim is too willing to give manipulator the benefit of the doubt and see their side of things in which they blame the victim
■low self-confidence - victim is self-doubting, lacking in confidence and assertiveness, likely to go on the defensive too easily.
■over-intellectualization - victim tries too hard to understand and believes that manipulator has some legitimate understandable reason to be hurtful.
■emotional dependency - victim has a submissive or dependent personality. The more emotionally dependent the victim is, the more vulnerable he is to being exploited and manipulated.
Manipulators generally take the time to scope out the characteristics and vulnerabilities of their victim.

The following are vulnerable to psychopathic manipulators:

■too trusting - people who are honest often assume that everyone else is honest. They commit themselves to people they hardly know without checking credentials etc. They rarely question so-called experts.
■too altruistic - the opposite of psychopathic, too honest, too fair, too empathetic
■too impressionable - overly seduced by charmers. For example they might vote for the phony politician who kisses babies.
■too naive - cannot believe there are dishonest people in the world or if there were they would be allowed to operate.
■too masochistic - lack of self-respect and unconsciously let psychopaths take advantage of them. They think they deserve it out of a sense of guilt.
■too narcissistic - narcissists are prone to falling for unmerited flattery.
■too greedy - the greedy and dishonest may fall prey to a psychopath who can easily entice them to act in an immoral way.
■too immature - has impaired judgment and believes the exaggerated advertising claims.
■too materialistic - easy prey for loan sharks or get-rich-quick schemes
■too dependent - dependent people need to be loved and are therefore gullible and liable to say yes to something they should say no to.
■too lonely - lonely people may accept any offer of human contact. A psychopathic stranger may offer human companionship for a price.
■too impulsive - make snap decisions about, for example, what to buy or who to marry without consulting others.
■too frugal - cannot say no to a bargain even if they know the reason why it is so cheap
being elderly - the elderly can become fatigued and less capable of multi-tasking. When hearing a sales pitch they are less likely to consider that it could be a con. They are prone to giving money to someone with a hard-luck story.

Motivations of manipulators .Manipulators have three possible motivations:

■The need to advance their own purposes and their own gain at virtually any cost to others
■The manipulator has strong needs to attain feelings of power and superiority in relationships with others
■Manipulators want and need to feel in control - control freakery
They have a "hidden agenda" to achieve their secret objectives.

Psychological conditions of manipulators ,Manipulators may have any of the following psychological conditions:

■Machiavellian personality
■narcissistic personality disorder
■borderline personality disorder
■dependent personality disorder
■histrionic personality disorder
■passive-aggressive behavior
■type A angry personalities
■antisocial personality disorder
■addictive personalities.

Basic manipulative strategy of a psychopath , psychopaths are always on the lookout for individuals to scam or swindle. The psychopathic approach includes three phases:

1: Assessment phase Edit
Some psychopaths are opportunistic, aggressive predators who will take advantage of almost anyone they meet, while others are more patient, waiting for the perfect, innocent victim to cross their path. In each case, the psychopath is constantly sizing up the potential usefulness of an individual as a source of money, power, sex or influence. Some psychopaths enjoy a challenge while others prey on people who are vulnerable. During the assessment phase, the psychopath is able to determine a potential victim’s weak points and will use those weak points to seduce.

2: Manipulation phase
Once the psychopath has identified a victim, the manipulation phase begins. During the manipulation phase, a psychopath may create a persona or mask, specifically designed to ‘work’ for his or her target. A psychopath will lie to gain the trust of their victim. A psychopath’s lack of empathy and guilt allows them to lie with ease - they don’t see the value of telling the truth unless it will help get them what they want.

As interaction with the victim proceeds, the psychopath carefully assesses the victim's persona. The victim's persona gives the psychopath a picture of the traits and characteristics valued in the victim. The victim's persona may also reveal, to an astute observer, insecurities or weaknesses the victim wishes to minimize or hide from view. As an ardent student of human behavior, the psychopath will then gently test the inner strengths and needs that are part of the victim's private self and eventually build a personal relationship with the victim.

The persona of the psychopath - the “personality” the victim is bonding with - does not really exist. It was built on lies, carefully woven together to entrap the victim. It is a mask, one of many, custom-made by the psychopath to fit the victim's particular psychological needs and expectations. The victimization is predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical or emotional harm for the individual. Healthy, real relationships are built on mutual respect and trust; they are based on sharing honest thoughts and feelings. The mistaken belief that the psychopathic bond has any of these characteristics is the reason it is so successful.

3: Abandonment phase
The abandonment phase begins when the psychopath decides that their victim is no longer useful. They abandon their victim and move on to someone else. In the case of romantic relationships, a psychopath will usually seal a relationship with their next target before abandoning their current victim. Abandonment can happen quickly and can occur without the current victim knowing that the psychopath was looking for someone new. There will be no apologies for the hurt and pain they cause because psychopaths do not appreciate these emotions.

Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to chiefTbon For This Useful Post:
Coldkaos, Fulcanelli, Peppermoose, Sterlig
  #2  
Old 11-12-2010, 06:09 PM
BICHOFELIX's Avatar
BICHOFELIX
Offline:
My Rank: CORPORAL
Poster Rank:1116
Male
Join Date: Aug 2009
 
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
0/20 15/20
Today Posts
0/11 ssssss352
Re: Psychological Manipulation

It seems like you go this information from an advance psychology books.

Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 11-12-2010, 06:17 PM
chiefTbon's Avatar
chiefTbon
Offline:
My Rank: FIRST LIEUTENANT
Poster Rank:168
mang
Join Date: Jan 2010
 
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Quoted: 254 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
2/20 14/20
Today Posts
0/11 sssss5888
Re: Psychological Manipulation

we all learn from somewhere or someone

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to chiefTbon For This Useful Post:
ToMidnightshow
  #4  
Old 11-13-2010, 11:05 PM
shooterb's Avatar
shooterb
Offline:
My Rank: FIRST LIEUTENANT
Poster Rank:160
male
Join Date: Nov 2009
 
Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Quoted: 9 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
0/20 14/20
Today Posts
0/11 sssss6074
Re: Psychological Manipulation

Hollywood is the biggest culprit.

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to shooterb For This Useful Post:
chiefTbon
  #5  
Old 11-13-2010, 11:18 PM
dooshman's Avatar
dooshman
Offline:
*Born Retard*
Poster Rank:58
Dude
Join Date: Dec 2009
 
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Quoted: 43 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
0/20 14/20
Today Posts
0/11 ssss16098
Re: Psychological Manipulation

You think you could condense this down to, say, one paragraph, in your own words?

Reply With Quote
The Following Users Disliked This Post By dooshman:
ToMidnightshow
  #6  
Old 11-13-2010, 11:18 PM
RedneckR0nin's Avatar
RedneckR0nin
Offline:
goinggoingGONE
Poster Rank:14
I am a man yes I am and tell ya so
Join Date: May 2009
 
Mentioned: 55 Post(s)
Quoted: 5369 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
1/20 15/20
Today Posts
0/11 ssss44935
Re: Psychological Manipulation

Great thread man!

__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Viking64 View Post
SHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMOOOOOOOOONNNNN
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to RedneckR0nin For This Useful Post:
chiefTbon
  #7  
Old 11-13-2010, 11:24 PM
chiefTbon's Avatar
chiefTbon
Offline:
My Rank: FIRST LIEUTENANT
Poster Rank:168
mang
Join Date: Jan 2010
 
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Quoted: 254 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
2/20 14/20
Today Posts
0/11 sssss5888
Re: Psychological Manipulation

Quote:
Originally Posted by dooshman View Post
You think you could condense this down to, say, one paragraph, in your own words?
No ... it is a detailed report ....

Stop trying to manipulate my thread

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to chiefTbon For This Useful Post:
lkduke3
  #8  
Old 11-13-2010, 11:27 PM
RedneckR0nin's Avatar
RedneckR0nin
Offline:
goinggoingGONE
Poster Rank:14
I am a man yes I am and tell ya so
Join Date: May 2009
 
Mentioned: 55 Post(s)
Quoted: 5369 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
1/20 15/20
Today Posts
0/11 ssss44935
Re: Psychological Manipulation

Honestly I thought it was going to contain more. I have read a ton of physiologic, sociology, and mental manipulation books. Very interesting subject and always interested!

__________________
Quote:
Originally Posted by Viking64 View Post
SHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMOOOOOOOOONNNNN
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 11-13-2010, 11:31 PM
chiefTbon's Avatar
chiefTbon
Offline:
My Rank: FIRST LIEUTENANT
Poster Rank:168
mang
Join Date: Jan 2010
 
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Quoted: 254 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
2/20 14/20
Today Posts
0/11 sssss5888
Re: Psychological Manipulation

yeah it interests me a lot .. makes me paraniod though ... i start mistrusting everybody

Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 11-14-2010, 12:02 AM
URBANXENTITY's Avatar
URBANXENTITY
Offline:
My Rank: SERGEANT
Poster Rank:733
Join Date: Jul 2009
 
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Quoted: 4 Post(s)
Activity Longevity
0/20 15/20
Today Posts
0/11 ssssss717
Re: Psychological Manipulation


Reply With Quote

Powered by vBulletin Copyright 2000-2010 Jelsoft Enterprises Limited.

Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO